The Question about Porn

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The Question about Porn

Porn is such a fun yet strange thing to me. With so many variations and companies producing high quality films as well as questionable and sometimes worrisome clips. I think a lot about porn’s effect on women. The porn industry is littered with sad stories of broken and damaged women (sometimes girls) getting pulled into the industry and are subjected to horrors that they did not sign up for. On the other hand, you have women that are empowered by their work in the adult film industry and are making good money having sex for others to see. And that’s just thinking about the participants.

I often wonder about the people who watch porn. Myself being one of them, I have seen some rather vanilla films to some intense “Two Girls, One Cup” style of films. I do my best to not judge a person’s kink or fetish but it does make me think what is it in a person’s psyche that attracts us to the strange, weird, and unusual.

There have been many studies that suggest that porn can be beneficial to a committed relationship but also one that state that it can be damaging.  Some studies show that there is a deepened connection and openness about communication between partners who watch porn together. These same studies suggest that the fantasy of these films can entice people into infidelity and inappropriate projections onto partners to fill these roles.

My only conclusion is all things in moderation. I appreciate the film companies that keep their actors safe and test for STDs frequently. I don’t agree with the film companies that manipulate or take advantage of people to get the shot they are looking for. There are many people with an array of kinks that will willingly participate in almost anything you can imagine, and some things you can’t.

Porn for me is awesome, so long as I can tell that all aspects of this party are willing participants.  Even acting unwilling is fine so long as I can see that it’s acting. Hey, I don’t want to judge anyone on how they like their sex scenes. However my own personal threshold is anyone or anything that didn’t look like it had a choice in the matter. But that’s just me. I will not question you about it.

I think porn is an aspect of our culture that will not and cannot go away. I also don’t believe that it should be hidden away or kept under wraps like a dirty little secret. The person viewing it is the only one who can make a judgment as to who they are in relation to what they are watching and how they feel about it.  The rest, well, we all will figure that out when we get there.