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BDSM, dominant, emotional, endorphin, health, kink, relationships, scenes, sexual education, submissive, toys -

Aftercare helps you and your partner return to a normal state of mind and well being. BDSM or kinky scenes can sometimes be hard on your partner’s physical and mental health depending on the type of play.

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change, relationships -

So much has been changing around me. The people I care about have been experiencing so many changes and having so many stressors and I am finding the last few months to be an amazing window into clarity, shifts, and change. Change drives growth and breakthroughs. No one said it would be comfortable or easy but it’s necessary and absolutely needed for evolution of anything. I spend a vast majority of my time learning from industry leaders in business/ personal growth and development and from my biggest influences, here are my 10 Rules for rolling with change. Don’t go with...

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Personal Growth, relationships, sexuality -

I had the delight to come across an extensive article written by Heather Corinna and CJ Turett about a understanding and taking inventory or your and your partner’s sexual stock list. This list that includes a printable PDF is an ideal and near genius and straightforward method to taking literal inventory of what you are comfortable with, what you would like to explore and what you have zero interest in experiencing. Upon reading this list, I internally gaged my own answers with the answers that I would anticipate for my partner. I realized that after 5+ years of being with...

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kink, relationships, sexuality -

Sexuality is anything but binary; it’s hardly even linear. No part of it is black and white. What you like now, could possibly change next week or six years past that.  I think of it like a tree or a three-dimensional jungle gym where participants swing from bar to bar. A podcaster I used to listen to years ago described her own marriage with her husband and how he was not honest with himself about where he was in relation to her regarding their sexuality. He loved her and wanted to do for he what she wanted but was growing...

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polyamory, relationships -

Once upon a time, in a far away land, I thought I was evolved enough to participate in a poly relationship. The focus of my attention wanted the attention of two others in addition to myself. The short story is that it does not work for me. I did realized that my self-worth is wrapped into how valuable I am perceived by my partner and I often fight to be indispensable. This experience did give me a better perspective as to how come couples make poly relationships work as well as much of the arguments for and against it. With...

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