Sexual Inventory Stock List

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Sexual Inventory Stock List

I had the delight to come across an extensive article written by Heather Corinna and CJ Turett about a understanding and taking inventory or your and your partner’s sexual stock list.

This list that includes a printable PDF is an ideal and near genius and straightforward method to taking literal inventory of what you are comfortable with, what you would like to explore and what you have zero interest in experiencing.

Upon reading this list, I internally gaged my own answers with the answers that I would anticipate for my partner. I realized that after 5+ years of being with my partner, some of these questions I did not know the answer to. So on one of our evenings, I am going to less than delicately pull out this list and see where it takes us and what conversations it brings up. One thing I appreciate about my relationship is that communication has never been our weak point. I look forward to seeing how this one goes.

This list is only a sample of the overall list at

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/yes_no_maybe_so_a_sexual_inventory_stocklist

I strongly suggest you print the PDF at the website and have the conversation over a glass of wine or two. This is not first date kind of questions but important questions to understand for yourself as well as your partner.

Sexual Inventory Stock List

Use Code Guide

Y = Yes

N = No

M = Maybe

IDK = I don't know

F = Fantasy

N/A = not applicable

Body Boundaries

___ Touching a partner sexually in public

___ Having my shirt/top off with a partner

___ Having a partner's shirt/top off

___ A partner being completely naked with the lights on

___ Direct eye contact

___ Being looked at directly, overall, when I am naked

Some parts of my body are just off-limits. Those are:

I am not comfortable looking at, touching or feeling some parts of another person's body. Those are:

I am triggered by (have a post-traumatic response to) something(s) about body boundaries. Those are/that is:

Words and Terms

I prefer the following gender/sexual identity or role words (like man, woman, boi, femme, butch, top, etc.) to be used for me:

I prefer my chest or breasts be referred to as:

I prefer my genitals to be referred to as:

I prefer my sexual orientation and/or identity to be referred to as:

Relationship Model and Choices

___ An exclusive romantic relationship

___ An exclusive sexual relationship

___ Some kind of casual or occasional open/non-exclusive romantic relationship

___ Some kind of casual or occasional open/non-exclusive sexual relationship

___ Some kind of serious or ongoing open/non-exclusive romantic relationship

___ Some kind of serious or ongoing open/non-exclusive sexual relationship

___ Sex of some kind(s) with one partner at a time, only

___ Sex of some kind(s) with two partners at a time

___ Sex of some kind(s) with three partners at a time

Overall safety items and behaviors

___ Sharing my sexual history with a partner

___ A partner sharing their sexual history with me

___ Doing anything sexual which does or might pose high risks of certain or all sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

___ Doing anything sexual which does or might pose moderate risks of certain or all sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

___ Doing anything sexual which does or might pose low risks of certain or all sexually transmitted infections (STIs)

___ Using a condom with a partner, always

___ Using a condom with a partner, not always

Sexual Responses

___ Having genital sexual response, like erection or lubrication, alone

___ Having genital sexual response, like erection or lubrication, seen or felt by a partner

___ Not having or "losing" erection or lubrication, alone

___ Not having or "losing" erection or lubrication, with or in front of a partner

___ Being unable to reach orgasm, alone

___ Being unable to reach orgasm, with a partner

Physical or sexual behavior

___ Masturbation

___ Holding hands

___ Hugging

___ Kissing, cheek or face

___ Kissing, closed-mouth

___ Kissing, open-mouth

___ Being kissed or touched on the neck

___ Kissing or touching a partner's neck

Non- physical Sexual activities

___ Phone sex

___ Cybersex, in IM

___ Cybersex, in chat room

___ Cybersex, on cell phone

___ Getting sexual images of a partner in my email or on my phone

___ Giving sexual images to a partner in their email or on their phone

___ Reading pornography or erotica, alone

Birth Control

___ Doing anything sexual which does or might pose a risk of pregnancy without using a reliable method of birth control

___ Doing anything sexual which does or might pose a risk of pregnancy with a reliable form of birth control

___ Using emergency contraception

___ Having a partner use emergency contraception

___ Becoming pregnant