Kink/BDSM Aftercare: Why It Is Important For Emotional And Physical Health

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Kink/BDSM Aftercare: Why It Is Important For Emotional And Physical Health

Why Aftercare?

Aftercare helps you and your partner return to a normal state of mind and well being. BDSM or kinky scenes can sometimes be hard on your partner’s physical and mental health depending on the type of play. Time and attention spent between you and your partner after a scene is essential. Aftercare can differ depending on the relationship with your partner, types of scenes, intensity, frequency, and much more. Prior to playing, aftercare can easily be discussed between you and your partner when you set boundaries and negotiate your bdsm and kinky scenes.

 

Physical and Emotional Health

Whether you are an extrovert or an introvert, communication is key after BDSM and kinky scenes. During a scene, endorphin levels can sore from the morphine-like chemicals and adrenaline going through the body. The submissive partner may experience something called a sub-drop after a scene is over. When the endorphins and adrenaline drop in a submissive it can cause a physical or emotional drop. In some cases your partner may want to be alone or cry. Depending on the type of kink, some parts of the body may also become marked, so it is important for the dominant partner to show that you care and provide assurance. Talk after the scene about what you and your partner liked, and what you did not like to make sure everyone is on the same page.


Ways To Comfort Your Partner During Aftercare:

  1. Removing all BDSM toys/paraphernalia from your partner.
  2. Give your partner a massage.
  3. Cuddle your partner to release endorphins.
  4. Kiss your partner. It can be as simple as a kiss on the lips, or all over the body.
  5. Help your partner clean up with a relaxing bath or shower.
  6. Give your submissive chocolate to help increase blood sugar levels and release Oxytocin.
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The options for aftercare are endless. Life is learning process, so get to know your partner and what types of activities they enjoy for aftercare. Take the time before you play to ask your partner what kind of aftercare they like.