I recently watched a film called Embrace by Taryn Brumfitt, on Netflix. To not completely spoil it for you, it is a deep dive in the body issues and acceptance, exploring why and how 91% of women hate their bodies. The conversations in the film are deep, and painful and enlightening, and encouraging.
I have witnessed my own body acceptance plunge after having a child, being barely be there before the baby and hovering currently in some sort of “well this is it” and wanting to focus my efforts and attention on aspects of health that I can control.
It got me thinking how much our sense of sexiness is derived from how we feel in our own skin. It breaks my heart that so many women allow how they see themselves to interfere with their confidence and subsequently, their sex life. I wish I knew what the answer was to body self-acceptance. That seems to be a moving target and different for every person.
I know for me personally, I don’t have the time to be obsessed with extreme perceived perfection of my figure. I do not like the narrowness of my world when I am only thinking about my food, my exercise, me me me me. I have a life to live that is full, that needs a lot of energy. Often I have to fight to keep up, and I take measures to make sure I can. I am in the process of making additional changes to be able to keep up with the increased workload and creative brain power needed as I, and the business, get bigger and busier.
It breaks my heart knowing that so many women see themselves as less than. It makes me angry that we have built cultures, societies, and industries around unrealistic standards. I am saddened how there seems to be a perpetually celebrated ideal that so many people are now aiming their own time, energy, food, and surgery to obtain.
I have no clue how to “fix” this or even how someone should/could fix this.
I guess it comes down to “Self-Awareness”, learning your own areas that “hurt” and finding effective methods to heal these areas. Self talk, self help books, therapy, a naked swim, or a photoshoot. What ever does it. But right now, there is obviously something broken and it so desperately needs to be fixed. I just wish I knew how.
If you can’t catch the film on Netflix, at least check the trailer on YouTube here: